The importance of exercising our resilience muscles’ for later and greater gratification is what is Gratification Definition.
The idea of delayed gratification seems to have been lost as times have gone by. We want everything right here and now. The notion of ‘hacking’ the system in order to get quick results is particularly appealing to millennials and the current generation. It offers a perceived quick solution to a problem without the hassle of experiencing the negative emotions that come with it. This becomes quite apparent when the youth of today are confronted by failure. We find ourselves in a time where we will do virtually anything in order to avoid feeling the negative emotions that come with it. We become selfish and ruthless; willing to do anything, even to hurt others to get what we want.
In essence, our compassion and resilience muscles’ have become atrophied. We have become desensitized and this impacts our relationships with other people. Instead, we focus on temporary solutions_ quick-fixes as it were. These quick-fixes don’t allow us to exercise these muscles adequately. Like all atrophied muscles we have become flabby and unable to do the work to bounce back stronger and more aware of our feelings.
The worst thing about this whole scenario is that these quick fixes offer fleeting pleasure. We gain nothing if in the process of pursuing fleeting happiness we hurt our fellow human beings. These temporary pleasures are devoid of substance. They are like drugs that induce dopamine and endorphins. You might get a temporary high but it doesn’t last and we are left worse than we were before indulging in them. Escapism offers a temporary reprieve that exacerbates problems than fixes them.
Since there is a growing need to exercise our resilience muscles now more than ever, it is important to have a program. In order to become strong and experience greater gratification in our lives, we need to exercise our resilience muscles’.
So how do we find joy and fulfilment in exercising our resilience muscles for greater gratification?
a) Be mindful and present:
In Fight Club, Edward Norton’s character retreats to a cave in his mind, his happy place, when Brad Pitt’s character pours lye on his hand. While at first glance, it seems like torture, the profound lesson in that scene is that we need to experience our pain and be present in order to be free.
b) Be optimistic:
In as much as experiencing pain is a good thing, we should fight against the temptation to give a negative meaning to it. Feel the pain, but be positive about the experience. Live in the hope that even the darkest periods, there is always a way out. It will end and you will be fulfilled by being stronger and positive throughout the experience.
c) Start with the small things:
Building your resilience muscles’ from scratch means you have to start small. Like any exercise program, you need to build up the intensity. Starting big will overwhelm and discourage you from being strong and grateful.
There is a joy that accrues from exercising our resilience muscles’. We get to experience a lasting kind of happiness that comes from surviving the worst and most trying periods. It is never easy to experience the pain of failure and disappointment. In fact, we fear the negative emotions more than the event itself. However, we can go through them easily and take comfort in the knowledge that we will get stronger for it in the end.
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